What do you do with jewelry when you realise you don't wear it? Plastic bits and bobs you paid $5 for can go in recycling or trash, sure, but... what about "real" jewelry? For example: a diamond bracelet or earrings a parent gave you? 

I have some jewelry of that nature, but I don't wear it. I'm not very capital-P Plain, but I'm a bit too little-p plain for jewels. I don't have offspring and don't expect my younger siblings to reproduce or adopt any time soon (and then I'd have to wait for the nieces to grow up...). I'm a bit worried that if I gave it to cousins (which, I don't even know what excuse you use to give it to them...the only one I can think of is "here take this to wear for your wedding..." or something) the parent who gave it to me would recognize it.

What have other women here done with their "good jewelry" after deciding it won't get any more use from you?

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It would depend on whether or not it has sentimental meaning to me. I'm the type of person who keeps little trinkets and things that hold sentimental meaning to me. And most of my jewelery is cheap fake stuff.

If your parents wouldn't be offended, explain to them that you wont wear it in the future and see if maybe they would like it back.  Or you could always sell it if it's really nice stuff.

If it doesn't have sentimental value and it's not offensive to you to dispose of your jewelry in such a way you can always sell it as well. Lots of people look at jewelry as an investment. Even if the object goes out of style, it always has the value of it's gemstones and precious metals.

I still have one or two items given me by family over the years - for example a necklace with coral beads that was my great grandmother's. I have not felt prompted to dispose of these so far.

It seems you are in a different place, in that you are clear about no longer owning these? I suppose one approach could be to open a dialogue with others who are concerned with these items, those who gifted them or who would care what you did with them, and see what way forward emerges. Maybe also discuss it with your own accountability group, if you have one? It would be a fine christian thing to do to sell them and give the money to the poor, or I can imagine you might find guidance to give them to someone in particular.  I suppose the summary of my opinion is, don't be too hasty, and seek God's guidance with the help of your community.

Alice speaks this Friend's mind. Take it to God.


 
Alice M Yaxley said:

I still have one or two items given me by family over the years - for example a necklace with coral beads that was my great grandmother's. I have not felt prompted to dispose of these so far.

It seems you are in a different place, in that you are clear about no longer owning these? I suppose one approach could be to open a dialogue with others who are concerned with these items, those who gifted them or who would care what you did with them, and see what way forward emerges. Maybe also discuss it with your own accountability group, if you have one? It would be a fine christian thing to do to sell them and give the money to the poor, or I can imagine you might find guidance to give them to someone in particular.  I suppose the summary of my opinion is, don't be too hasty, and seek God's guidance with the help of your community.

I am not totally plain in the jewellry department. I wear simple silver earrings and a silver engagement ring with no jewels and I plan to wear a similar wedding ring once we get married. I feel no tug to stop wearing these items but I do not wear necklaces or any other decoration.

I have both fake and gold and silver pieces that I do not wear but I am not yet at the stage that I feel I can get rid of them all. I will however give away some of them to my niece (mostly inexpensive ones) next time I go to visit her. I plan to keep some due to sentimental value and some I will simply keep as something that I can sell if times are hard. Other things I might give to my sister or another relative when and if I feel lead to that later on. I have thought much about the fact that I do not feel completely lead to give up jewellry but I have come to the conclusion that I should stop here and perhaps not move to a plainer position for ever or at least not for a long time.

  I've passed on "the family jewels" to  daughter, and of course this did involve them residing in a small box in the back of a dresser drawer for many years until she grew up. 

  My mum, on the other hand, had tons of fake jewels, a chest in her bedroom with two drawers full of necklaces, brooches, rings..... my kids loved to paw through these when we visited her.

   She didn't wear such things anymore and I only recognized a few of the necklaces from my childhood I thought this odd. Then I learned she did not wear the jewelry at all.

 It was for my brother to wear.

  He also had a number of bright gaudy robes in opulent fabrics. He has a bony face and can look quite fierce. The Sunday School teachers were in the habit of calling on him to play the role of Evil King for their Bible lessons.

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