I'm feeling so blessed!  I made peace with my ex husband.  It took many years for me to forgive him for all that had been done, but once I was able to, I found the abundance in my life multiply.

My ex husband introduced me to Quakerism and for many years after our divorce I have not attended a meeting because I have not lived near one.   I have yearned to be together in spirit with Friends for so long, I can hardly believe I moved to an area where a meeting is less than 10 miles away.  I'm anxious to attend.


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Comment by Paula Deming on 7th mo. 13, 2011 at 8:45am

Dear Friend Stephanie,

Forgiveness is a powerful healer and leads to joy. Congratulations to you for finding such courage.

Your Friend in the Light, Paula

Comment by Stephanie Piddock on 7th mo. 13, 2011 at 11:31am

Thank you Paula.  I was angry & bitter for a very long time and I didn't realize how it affected everything in my life.

Forgiveness is completely liberating.  I also had to forgive myself for harboring these feelings.  The past is the past.  You can't change it, you can only learn from it.  

Comment by Sel Stoll on 7th mo. 13, 2011 at 12:51pm

Hi Stephanie -

It's so refreshing to read of your liberation in letting go of bitterness and moving through what can often feel like a murky process in coming to a point of forgiveness and resolution - but what an awesome and beautiful thing when we can say our hearts are free of that weight.  I've heard it said before that forgiveness is like a glass of bitter poison that we drink every day, hoping the other person will die... and that imagery is always a harsh reminder to me of what I'm not only doing to myself (my heart and spirit) by not letting go of hurts and being open to forgiving, but also what I'm actually holding against another person, and what I'm intending for them.  And as Friends, when we look at what that ideal picture of peace, reconciliation, harmony and simplicity looks like, it's hard to find a streak of darkness that unforgiveness can create, when we can say that our hearts are clear.  This is a challenge and reminder to me today, as I'm also dealing with some heaviness and sometimes struggle to let go of past hurts.

I appreciate your honesty, openness, and willingness to move forward.  That's a powerful and healthy thing.  I wish you continued peace and healing!

Best -


Comment by Stephanie Piddock on 7th mo. 13, 2011 at 2:36pm

Namaste Sel,


Thank you for your support!  I'm sorry you have heaviness in your heart.  I pray you will be able to release this and experience the freedom & joy forgiveness brings. Life is simply too short to carry these burdens.  Peace be with you.


Comment by Sel Stoll on 7th mo. 13, 2011 at 2:43pm
Thank you so much, Stephanie!  It's a beautiful thing how we as F/friends can be a support to each other as we all strive to live as peaceably as possible in a world that doesn't tend to flow with that current!  I appreciate your prayers - and I'll also be praying that your journey ahead brings you peace, new experiences and understanding to bring you to a more full place within God and within your own sense of center. :)


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