as a mother of a teenager I agree with you - as the stress increases when dealing with teenage behaviour and as the stress is increased by worry, fear or exhaustion, I find it very hard to remain calm and loving and think clearly instead…"
"Friend Tamara, I am not a parent, but as a former violent child who eventually got his head on straight, I sympathize with your struggles.
For introducing your kids to ideas of nonviolence, this university has a bibliography of picture books about…"
'This is a difficult issue. Because I have no living children, I can't speak as a parent, so I am speaking as a person who has experienced a lot of violence in her lifetime--from other children (including a sibling), from a…"
"My wife and I try our best to model the non-violent lifestyle for our children. It's unfortunate that in some cases we find ourselves reduced to screaming wackos, but we continue to try our best. But we don't allow violence in the home,…"
Thank you so much for your advise , it has already proven useful ! I think the reason I am finding the task so daunting is that we are Isolated parents who do not have any outside help . Niether of us have…"
"Thank you Lee , I sertainly have a lot of reading to do :) This information can be most helpful in my efforts to teach with appropriate steps . Understanding each individual child is the key . x Tamara
Much like you I think, becoming a parent really brought the issue of violence, in all it's many forms, to light. When my children were nursing babies and small children, my husband and I shielded them, not…"
"Your comment about violence with a concern for children is very important. I really don't know where to find appropriate literature for children. But I would like to share sources of literature to help us respond to our children in a way that…"
"well i think we are all human and the imperfections of our words can make us weak. I have lived in many places all over the world and even thought people still speek english or french or whatever language they may be they identify to the same words…"
"I like this and yes it is important both from todays friends and those of the passed to learn about there searchings and found truths so we can ignite and grown in our own light and unify us in one main objective . I am not so learnd in all of the…"
"Barb- I am sorry if agian I offended you . I feel quite hurt this time that by my small questions and opinions I am see as ant the spirit of christ and inner voice. On the contry, I am mearly asking other experiences so that I may learn…"
"Plain dress is how we interprate it and as long as we are striving for modesy and simplicty any small change we make can only get us that much closer to the light and finding the peace we need inside to fufill that message . I do have a question for…"
As a new mother I am becoming more aware of Violence that is portrayed in childrens books, programs and essentialy in some children themselves. So I have been thinking a lot about the subbtle violence we encounter every day , within ourselves and from others . As our stresses increase so does our natural instinct to fight back or run away . We often lash out in words or even actions against those from whom we feel threatend . This is a form of violence and is indeed the starting point for more…See More
I guess I would say I am a liberal Quaker who leans towards Gnostic and Ancient Jewish theology. However I have always been facinated in the communal living of the essenes and the modern conservative friends. Life has not permited me to live in such a way , however it is still a hope of mine to see and experience at least once . I would like to learn more from liberal and Concervative friends and am looking to find some spiritual companions from all walks of understanding to share my light and experiences with .
Conservative Friends live in society and take full part in modern life. All Quakers seek simplicity, but very few live anything like an Amish lifestyle. The Ohio Yearly Meeting Book of Discipline says;
"Simplicity does not mean that all conform to uniform standards. Each must determine in the light that is given him what promotes and what hinders his compelling search for the Kingdom. The call to each is to abandon those things that clutter his life and to press toward the goal unhampered. This is true simplicity."
Oh Tamara, that is a question that keeps these pages running. In a nutshell conservative Quakers adhere to the original form of Quaker worship, that is unstructured and without a minister. Some conservative Friends plain dress, but by no means all. Generally conservative Quakers are strongly Christian. Liberal Quakers may also be Christian, but many are open to other ideas about the nature of god. A third group called evangelical Quakers are, like conservative Quakers, strongly Christian, but often move towards structured worship and often use pastors at meetings. These differences are not as great as they may seem and most Quakers have friends in other strands of worship.
I an a conservative Quaker in the respect of being strongly Christian, supporting unstructured meetings, and plain dressing, but I lean towards the liberal Quaker tradition in many other aspects of my faith and worship. If you are new to Quakerism, my advice is take your time before deciding if you are conservative?liberal?evangelical ~ get to know as many Friends as you can and you may find yourself naturally feeling more at ease in one tradition or the other. Those who like to bring all strands of Quaker worship together are called convergent Friends and that probably includes most of those you will find here at QuakerQuaker.
I'm sure that, being Quakers, others will want to add to this answer.
Thanks for your comment Tamara - Scotland is very cold and damp today with biting winds - in the UK in general most quaker meetings are part of Britain Yearly Meeting which is regarded as liberal. However, there is a lot of diversity within that, fortunately. Also, there are some Friends here who affiliate themselves with other, more conservative, groups, generally within the US. I leave it to others more informed than I am to explain more succinctly the differences. I myself live on a small island and the nearest Quakers are on the next island, so we don't manage to meet every week. I find this site, and Hay Quaker's blog, a good way of keeping in touch with Friends of all persuasions. Good to be in touch with you, Amanda
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