Hello, friends.

I am being moved to cover my hair, but I am not sure what covering to use.  I don't want to stand out too much, so I was thinking maybe a bandanna that is the same colour as my hair?

Could people here tell me what kind of covering they use, and how they came to that covering?  It would be much appreciated.

in friendship,

Margaret.

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I have a few different ones I use. 

This is one of mine: http://www.etsy.com/listing/76109271/white-crinkled-chiffon-bethany...

I also have a few of this style: http://www.etsy.com/shop/SowersofHope?section_id=6848771

And also some of these: http://www.snoods.com/catstan.html

 

The tichels are commonly worn by Orthodox Jewish women, so I have had a few people ask if I'm Jewish when wearing them. I like that they're a somewhat more mainstream style of covering (they remind me of Julia Styles in Save the Last Dance, when she goes clubbing: freeze frame ) so can be perceived as a matter of personal style rather than a religious thing. 

 

The reason I have a snood is actually because of the Renaissance Festival. I bought a wine-red one there a few years ago, then I got a white one from snoods.com and crocheted myself a pink one. I liked being able to have a little bit of Ren Fest with me even after the season was over. These coverings confuse people. They almost always assume it's a religious covering, not just a style preference. A coworker asked whether I'm a Uighur, some random people on the street called me "little Amish head", and several people have just come right out with "what are you?!"

 

My preferred sources are: http://www.etsy.com/shop/SowersofHope and http://thestyleunderground.com/ and the aforementioned snoods.com

SowersOfHope sells snoods that are solid fabric (common for Jewish women wanting none of their hair to show) instead of the "traditional" (at least to the Middle Ages...) netting.

Hi, Margaret,

I'll spare thee the boring details, but it has been a years-long process for me to be clear about a head covering, and to find what seems right.

In the wintertime, a simple crocheted cap that covers my whole head and ears works well.  We keep the temperature moderate in our home  so it doesn't get too warm.

Earlier this year I discovered Buffs.  This is not a commercial, I do not receive money from them. (c;

But they have a variety of styles and materials for different weather and seasons.  It was the Buff that my beloved appreciated immediately, and I have a few for summer and a couple for winter.  They are easy to care for and so far there has been no indication that it is a distraction.  They seem to be holding up well with wear.

One devout person I did not know well at the time expressed simple appreciation for the covering.

Raye

I wear these mostly -http://www.modestworld.com/products.asp?cat=8  headscarves.  I've also worn snoods and caps http://katiesmercantile.com/gathered_cap_adult.html.  What I've learned is that I need to use synthetic fibers. Natural fibers grab onto my hair and pull it out. I started thinning on the hair line with the cotton caps.   Here's my opinion; a natural bandanna of your hair color is not less conspicuous. Covering is quite conspicuous especially if you're also dressing modestly. Don't let that stop you.

Margaret-

I usually wear a traditional soft-fabric cap style, so that would not qualify as "not standing out too much," but when I have to have a "down" hair day, I am fond of the kerchiefs made by Garlands of Grace. They have a wide variety of interesting and unique headcoverings. The kerchiefs I wear have a velvet band around the brim (?) that also function as the ties, the velvet holds the kerchief in place with no tugging. Link to One of a Kind section on Garlands of Grace website.

Isabel

Check out McCall's pattern 4116.  Several of the versions are appealing.  Also, I've found some acceptable cap style hijab on eBay.  I have a Ffriend who has several attractive snood-type coverings.  Sometimes you just have to experiment to see what works best for you.  That comes under Simplicity in my book!  8-)

Thank you all for the replies!

I quite like tichels, I must say!  They look lovely when tied in all the different ways.

If commentors don't mind, another question:  are there any particular covering styles\scarves you feel would go better with business casual\business wear?

I usually wear mine the way Andrea does here: http://www.sowersofhopeboutique.com/2010/10/s-e-e-d-andrea/

There's a how-to here: http://thestyleunderground.typepad.com/blog/2010/02/scarf-style-twi...

Sometimes I just tie it under my chignon and let the triangle point hang.

As far as particular scarves... Sowers of Hope's scarves are bigger than The Style Underground's small scarves, but smaller than their big ones. I find The Style Underground's small ones to be just enough to do that twist-around-bun thing. With Sowers of Hope's, it can be a bit tougher to get the whole end point tucked up with the bun (though, my hair hasn't been cut in years, so I have a pretty big bun!) and so I find it easier to do the tie-under-bun-and-leave-points-hanging thing with the scarf I have from there. One nice thing about scarves from either of these shops is they're lined so they don't slip off.  This is the one I have from Sowers of Hope: http://www.etsy.com/transaction/39217445  I think it's ok for office wear, but pretty much right on the line before getting "too loud". 


Margaret Banford said:

Thank you all for the replies!

 

I quite like tichels, I must say!  They look lovely when tied in all the different ways.

 

If commentors don't mind, another question:  are there any particular covering styles\scarves you feel would go better with business casual\business wear?

Mackenzie,  thank you so much for the Sowers of Hope link. I've just spent a great deal of time reading the S.E.E.D.S. interviews of women who cover. 

I like to wear tichels as well.  They are indeed quite large, but I like the coverage. I have dreadlocks so a bun looks rather like a second head unless I gather my hair up in a snood and then put on the scarf. That is only a reasonable option in the Winter I think. What I do is I take the ends of the scarf and wrap them around my head. They go around twice and tie again at my  nape. It makes for a very tidy cover.  I like using clips even though they are not necessary. For some reason I feel them to be a declaration to anyone that notices them (they are quite understated) that my cover is intentional as opposed to fashion.

As for business casual I love the tichels.  I've also used a soft snood http://www.modestworld.com/proddetail.asp?prod=SN0004&cat=42  but more often I use that one at home.  Funny thing; the black snood (synthetic) was the answer to my prayers regarding turnout when I ride. My pony tail is far too large for a hair net or bun cover, but if I braid my dreads and wrap them around each other they fit perfectly under my black snood which fits perfectly under my helmet, and makes for very tidy turnout in riding.  There is a picture of me and my horse on my page -if you squint you can see I'm wearing a black snood. http://www.flickr.com/photos/52967336@N00/6407072341/sizes/l/in/pho...

Paula

Sisters:

What great replies! I appreciate the links. I like seeing what other women are creating out there.

Like Isabel, I tend to be more on the traditional side. I wear my hair up in a mennonite bun with a traditional head covering over it. I make mine out of muslin, poplin, linen and organdy in both white and black. The color and cap material depends on my needs for the day; I find that black works well in business situations and the organdy for more formal occasions. (Although this does confuse my Amish neighbors as a black cap is reserved for unmarried females and I'm obviously married. They must think we Quakers have no rules.) When there is heavy work to do on the farm and the overalls come out, I usually wear this kerchief or this snood. I wear the snood frequently, as it makes a good covering that helps when I'm in the company of those who are uncomfortable with the traditional covering. I'm still looking for a veil that works for me on down hair days. 

~paula

ps. Wow - I really like Garlands of Grace! Sometimes I feel the need to be inconspicuous in my testimony and this would work well. Just last night the spouse and I revisited the "black velvet dress" discussion. He wants me to have a black velvet dress to wear at Christmas and special events and I haven't been able to work out a compromise. 

Thank you again, friends!

I have to say that I like the look of a scarf tied in the Jerusalem Twist fashion: http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/jerusalemtwist.pl  and the crown fashion: http://www.tznius.com/cgi-bin/rainbow.pl

Thank you for the link to the mennonite bun, paula who left the comment just above mine, I think I will try that!

In friendship,

Margaret.

I wear just regular scarves from second hand shops or standard shops. I do not have much hair so I do not need a big scarf and I dislike having long ties hanging down as they always snag on something. I wear one with long ties now though since I tend to wear my more festive and more modern coverings when I am visiting my family. It is unpractical but I can at least play with my sister's cats without having to get a cat toy... :-)

I do not have a specific model or color that I wear more than any other and I tend to wear patterned scarves quite a lot since they are easier to come by but I plan to make a couple scarves myself in a single color probably brown, black, gray or beige. I would feel that a scarf in a mute single color would work in any professional situation. I wear all my scarves tied at the back and fastened with two clippies and that works in any situation as well.

Yes, I'm thinking of sticking to plain colours (or at the very least a scarf with a small pattern) for work.  As I said over in the 'colour' thread, I adore colour.  I'll just keep the colourful scarfs until the weekend  :-)

in friendship,

Margaret.

Elin Hagberg said:

I wear just regular scarves from second hand shops or standard shops. I do not have much hair so I do not need a big scarf and I dislike having long ties hanging down as they always snag on something. I wear one with long ties now though since I tend to wear my more festive and more modern coverings when I am visiting my family. It is unpractical but I can at least play with my sister's cats without having to get a cat toy... :-)

I do not have a specific model or color that I wear more than any other and I tend to wear patterned scarves quite a lot since they are easier to come by but I plan to make a couple scarves myself in a single color probably brown, black, gray or beige. I would feel that a scarf in a mute single color would work in any professional situation. I wear all my scarves tied at the back and fastened with two clippies and that works in any situation as well.

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